It’s more British than American. And it likely originated as a toast. The phrase “more power to your elbows” meant you lifted your comrades up to continued good fortune, with many more celebrations to come (so their elbows would therefore be bent in many more celebratory toasts). But now, “more power to your elbows” is most often just said in recognition of a thing well done, with hope for even more successes. A sort of quirky wish for “good luck.” more “More power to your elbows.”
I like the balance of it. The reciprocity of it. For more than a year, our children and grandchildren, our young people and youth, have had the responsibility of keeping the elders of our human “tribe” safe. They’ve separated themselves and left their jobs and schools, they’ve stayed at home and kept their distance – initially, primarily, and poignantly to protect the vulnerability of the older generations. Now, it’s the grandmothers’ and grandfathers’ turn to protect the young. more “Taking care of each other, one tribe at a time.”
It is a rather small scrap of simple cotton cloth. It is faded cream in color with a pattern of soft blue leaves printed across it. And it is fastened onto a large page of paper, along with half-a-dozen other small lengths of different bits of cloth and folds of ribbon. The page is one of many pages, bound into a very large, very old, book. And there are rows and rows of books just like it. And they are shelved and preserved within the Foundling Museum in London, England. more “Scraps of Love”
It is known as Kintsugi. And its origin is based on legend, centuries old, Japanese. It’s the technique of mending broken items – especially pottery – with gold. And in this way, the broken thing becomes something transformed – a work of art.
Kintsugi causes the brokenness and scars of an item, its cracks and missing bits, to become its points of focus and value, its visible vulnerability and history and eloquence. more “Mending with gold.”
“Little foxes,” she said.
My friend and I were walking with dogs. It was early morning, late autumn. We were discussing everything and nothing. And we were not walking too near to each other, which somehow prohibits the natural sharing of confidences. But we had been talking about something – I can’t remember exactly what – that concerned small worries, the kind that keep you awake at night and prevent you from truly enjoying a day of doing nothing. And that’s when she said: “Little foxes.” more “All the little foxes.”
“Fairies, on the whole, absolutely delight in giving gifts – especially surprise gifts – to each other as well as to outsiders.”
This is a line from one of my books, “The Secret Child.” And it seems rather fun and significant to me right now. Because for the past few weeks, several of my friends and I have been hiding copies of this book in various places all around Aiken – and beyond. And I hope they are being discovered as the unexpected gifts they are intended to be. more “Hidden books, surprise gifts.”
“… and it was always said of him, that he knew how to keep Christmas well …”
It is among the closing lines from Charles Dickens’ classic story, “A Christmas Carol.” It may be one of the best remembered and most cherished sentences in the book.
“To keep Christmas well,” I suspect, implies different things to each of us. But in the language of the day when this book was written, it meant to observe, or to honor, or to celebrate something. To actively remember. more “To keep it well.”
There were more than 8,000 of them. More than 8,000 books in nearly 500 cartons. A total of about 11,000 pounds. And over the course of 6 days or so, I shifted them all.
As an independent author, I warehouse all my own books at my home. Up until last week, they were primarily on pallets under an attached covered carport. But after some slight renovations and reinforcements to an old existing storage shed at the back of my property, I was able to shift all my “warehoused” books (all eight titles of them) into the shed, and away from the covered carport (now happily functioning as a new patio space).
And yet, as an independent woman, it never seems to occur to me when I start these projects that I’m no longer in my twenties or even my thirties – when I could lift half my own body weight without a twinge. So it took days longer than I had anticipated to accomplish my goal – plus the eventual assistance of a very generous neighbor who pitched in at the end to help me heft the last few boxes into place onto the highest levels.
Besides providing a great deal of personal satisfaction for having done this, I found the project to be a rather profound experience in applied philosophy.
Books – all books, everyone’s books – are human experience and thoughts; they’re observations and ideas put into words and images on paper, bound by glue and opinion, folded together with expression, stitched into place with threads of cotton and perspective. And I began to suspect that it was easier to shift all 11,000 pounds of these boxes and books of ideas and opinions, than it is to shift even one opinion or belief in one other person’s mind.
Scientists have done studies showing how our beliefs involve many parts of the mind as well as the body (not simply one part of the brain as was once thought). They have learned that our beliefs are “fluid” – capable of changing and growing and maturing. Beliefs are known to be highly experiential, based in childhood, and influenced by what we’re told as well as what we witness.
Our beliefs can affect every part of our being, from physical to emotional, from our outward behavior to our individual cells. Our beliefs not only influence how we think and act, but they can affect our health and resilience; they help us love and let us break our hearts; they see beauty where others may not, and shape our dreams as we sleep. Our beliefs and opinions influence how we make decisions and how we taste our food, how we decorate our homes and how we raise our children.
I personally felt rather reassured when I learned that apparently our opinions or beliefs cannot be bought for any amount of money, or diminished by threat of pain. And yet, we hold the power to revoke or change any one of our own beliefs or opinions at will, at any given moment. And we may form a new belief just as promptly, with just the beat of a heart.
I suspect that in our current global reality, we have never had so many opportunities for forming opinions and beliefs and ideas than we do right now. But after physically shifting over ten thousand pounds of ideas by myself during this past week, I suspect that sharing the load, lifting together, aligning with another’s generosity of spirit, is a perfectly brilliant way for achieving the same goal and reaching even greater heights. Perhaps this can be so even if the opinions belong to someone else … perhaps even when they exist as almost half a thousand boxes, all holding another’s way of thinking and believing and feeling.
There is a decades-old tradition among the people of the Hawaiian Islands – among the women specifically, and those of Polynesian descent in particular – to take to their boats and pay tribute to their ancestors in a challenging and meaningful annual event. They race in outrigger canoes between the shores of two islands across wildly open ocean waters. And when they do so, they honor their mothers and grandmothers and all the women who have gone before them, and become an example for all those to come.
They use only their own human strength: The power of their arms and backs, their wrists and hands and legs, their will and mindsets, the unseen sinew and muscle of spirit and determination.
It is done in the tradition of the great accomplishments of the original people who discovered these islands and first called them home. It was a feat that many modern day cultures have difficulty crediting or even imagining. They crossed thousands of miles of open seas and crushing weather in paddle-driven single-hull canoes, finding land not by sight but by reading the skies and winds and the reflections and shapes of the ocean waves themselves.
Fashioned after a race once restricted to men, the women’s boats are traditionally built outriggers, carrying no more than six women in each, each woman with a single paddle. The distance is more than 40 miles. And the grueling conditions and pace cannot be sustained or completed by themselves alone. And so, along the way, they pass the responsibility on to a next-generation of paddlers.
Two at a time, crew members surrender themselves into the sea, and new team members climb aboard out of the water to assume their places – to continue and finish the race. The retiring paddlers are picked up by the same waiting escort boats that have dropped off their relief crew; it is a relay filled with grace and elegance and, more especially, tradition.
The women paddlers are of all ages, all backgrounds, all sizes and ethnicities and lifestyles, all beliefs, all talents. And yet they all share this spirit, this acknowledgement, this understanding: that their own feet might not be the ones to touch the winning shore; the destination may be reached by their sisters, not themselves. And yet, the victory will belong to them all. Because it is a victory of accomplishment, of tradition, of honoring and remembrance. It is a victory of a people, not of individuals.
I find it rather compelling that it was the women of this culture who fought for and won the right to create and participate in this particular race – which is competed by women only. And I believe in the wider sisterhood of humanity. And I believe women represent a tradition of self-sacrifice for the greater good, and possess a generational outlook that is unique. Women have always carried the fire and buried the dead, led the young and stayed with the left-behind. Women have also paddled the boats, and made first footprints on fresh sand. But I suspect it is most important that they have lowered themselves into the sea, and passed the paddles forward to their sisters with encouragement when their own energy and time was spent.
We are entering into a season of both old traditions and new opportunities right now. Perhaps we can view such traditions as solid foundations, well-built boats. Perhaps we can re-envision the symbolism of it all, revisit the integrity of it, and reinvent ourselves accordingly – without losing hold of the idea of the original goal, the original journey. Like taking up traditional boat paddles to compete in new races and celebrate fresh victories.
After all, the settlers of Hawaii could not see the islands themselves when they set out – they had only the idea of them, and the faith that they or their descendants would arrive and be safe and become better versions of themselves. And, in that tradition, I suspect it may be up to the women of our world to pick up more paddles, to get into more boats, and to just example the heck out of it.
She was clearly not where she was meant to be. And I had the feeling she was as surprised by it all as I was at seeing her there.
The flouncy little single rose blossom had poked her head completely through to the back side of a tall solid wooden fence, while the rest of her was out of sight, leaning against the front side of the fence as intended, as planted.
It seemed that at some time in her youth (for nothing larger than a bud could have made it through that small crack in the fence) her curiosity must have won out over her family ties. And so she thrust her tiny head through to the other side of the fence. She peeked into the unknown. She opened herself up to the unfamiliar side of the sun. And once she was there, she bloomed into her full beauty, apparently quite happy and in good health.
Quincy the dog and I were walking past the fence that separates two neighboring yards a few blocks from my house. We were approaching from the western (back) side of the fence. And there she was: a perfectly formed pale pink rose in full bloom, nodding at us in the slight breeze. And then we saw the rose bed itself, which was obviously planted on the eastern side of the fence.
The fact that the lovely blossom appeared so isolated, so out-of-place, so singular and friendly, stopped me for a closer look. She nodded again in greeting. And she made my very soul smile in return. (I suspect a flower waving at you is uniquely qualified to break through even the most pensive or solemn frame of mind.)
Q and I soon continued on our walk, but the message and meaning of the diffident single rose stayed with me, and had its way with my heart and mind for quite a long time.
Like most of us, I suspect I have been trading my own curiosity for trepidation lately; afraid to venture away from my side of the fence, fearful of looking onto the other side (or the others’ side). Perhaps I’ve suspected that the cracks in the fences that define my life – that define me – are to be avoided rather than taken as a visionary opportunity of possibilities.
And yet, this small rose took that chance. She reached out and through and looked around and waved at strangers. And in her instinctive way, she bloomed quite perfectly. She kept her roots, yet found new sun. And she thrived.
I suspect it’s the reassurance of the familiar that keeps us on our particular side of the fences in our lives. I suspect it is our own fears that cause us to create such fences and barriers and separations in the first place. But perhaps we might consider the curiosity of the rose, the rose who took that chance – that opportunity – that possibility – that vision – of the other side of the fence.
There is a quotation from Douglas Adams (“The Hitchhiker’s Guide to the Galaxy”) that says this: “I may not have gone where I intended to go, but I think I have ended up where I was intended to be.”
None of us may have ever intended to go through such global uncertainty, with all its fear and anxiety, its unknowing and unwanted, with cracks in our familiar surroundings and holes punched in places where we believed ourselves to be safe and content. But I suspect we will end up where we are intended to be. And I suspect we will be curiously beautiful when we get there.